Divorce Solutions
Through Divorce Coaching, we assess where you are in your divorce and work through any issues that may arise by helping you move forward, stepping into your magnificence. In educating yourself and subscribing to modules that pertain to you and your situation, you are able to figure out what your next step is in order to move forward.
Divorce Essentials will provide you with valuable information to consider, available resources, ideas, and suggestions on how to get your desired result. The ultimate goal throughout a transition period results in finding happiness. In order to reach that goal I encourage you to brainstorm options and ideas which might allow this process to move forward as smoothly and painlessly as possible. Making these changes will push you towards new and exciting opportunities.
of You Through The Process of Divorce.
Private One-on-One Coaching with Adele Montesano
A divorce can be an extremely challenging time for you and for those you love.
Some people prefer to talk to friends and co-workers; others turn to family members and some choose to suffer in silence and solitude. Of course, others can offer an ear or a shoulder to cry on, but can they really offer you the specific steps you need to take when faced with a difficult problem, question or emotional crisis? Can they offer a concrete plan to help you find solid answers to the most perplexing issues?
Through personal telephone coaching you are able to gain the empowerment that you need in order to grow and move forward so you can begin living a rewarding and inspiring life after divorce. I offer a no cost, 30 minute consultation to assess if we're a good fit and if so, which coaching method will best suit your specific needs and goals.
Support Modules
When you find your life turned upside down, it may feel as though your entire well-being is in jeopardy. Going through a divorce is a process that no human can fully prepare themselves for; however, there are effective methods to ensure that you reach a peaceful place.
By seeking help to put the pieces of your life back together, you are taking the first step towards a new and happier you. Drawing from my experiences, as well as numerous coping processes, I have created specific modules to support and guide you so this process will be as painless as possible.
Below you will find support modules. These e-books, approximately 30-40 pages each, will give you specific information that will help you process through and experience success during this challenging period.
Status Quo
NOW WHAT? The divorce process takes you down so many different roads complete with more questions, more uncertainty and more pain. In this module, we'll touch on what needs to be looked at immediately and give you things to consider that may not have crossed your mind. You'll learn what pertains to you and what doesn't, how to develop an organized system, learn to protect yourself, how to find an attorney, talk to the kids and your spouse are just some of the topics that we will go over. 
Planning Your Financial Future
You may already know how to balance a check book or not. This module will help you through the process of understanding your financial obligations and provide an easier and simpler way of minimizing that confusion when you're looking at a bunch of numbers. You can walk through the process of preparing budgets, personal financial statements for your divorce process and set up regular record keeping, so you are able to gain full control of your financial future.
Living Arrangement - with Kids
Here you will be introduced to different living arrangement options and learning to make decisions based on sound business decisions as opposed to flighty emotional reactionary decisions. It's about learning how to live on your own and becoming educated on home maintenance. It's about creating stability for your children in their safe haven and providing the comfort that they need and the comfort of routines.
Living Arrangement - Without Kids
With the omission of children during a divorce the concept of a "business transaction" is more easily attained. A divorce becomes a division of assets, who gets what and what do I need to do in order to move on emotionally? This module will outline what needs to be done before either you or your spouse decides to move out. Personal Health
Your emotional state is hard to pin down from one moment to the next. This is not the best state of mind to be in when you are being called upon to handle so many things and make so many important choices and decisions. Choice comes from reasoning, and that means you need to be in control of your emotions. Here you will learn how to deal with the emotional roller coaster. It's about learning what you can do and need to do for YOU, so that you are able to live your life to the fullest.
Personal Growth: Dealing with your Internal Stresses
Perhaps the most important realization that an individual can make in their search for personal growth is that there is no single formula that defines the path to personal success. We all have different goals and priorities, which means that different activities and attitudes will make us feel good about ourselves. How wonderful would it be to live an enriched life that you have previously only dreamed of? Walk yourself through the many ways of achieving that life and find what works best for you.
Dealing with Family and Making New Friends
As you began the divorce process, you probably only thought of your immediate world: home, children and property. As the process drags on you will discover that your entire range of relationships has changed. Some of these changes are sudden and huge. Others are more subtle. How do you deal with "splitting the friends" in a divorce, how comfortable are you with making new friends? What role do grandparents and relatives play in your life and the lives of your children? In this module you will receive clarification on the many different relationships and your role in each.
Spiritual Connection
Perhaps the most rewarding module for myself. This module is based on faith and beliefs as opposed to Religion. A divorce is a spiritual wake-up call. You can choose to work hard and heal yourself on the deepest level, or you can be a victim of life and other people's problems. To choose a spiritual divorce is to use your divorce to heal yourself. What can you do to use your divorce to nurture your spirit and create a life you'll love? Here you can learn the steps involved in healing ourselves internally. This is where we learn to love ourselves first.
Beginning a New Career
Now that your life has been shaken up, you may find yourself in a predicament and you need to start working. What do you do? Where do you look? What are you qualified to do? So many questions, where are all the answers? Perhaps, you've come to a point in your life where you have been working but find that it's not satisfying or fulfilling and you know there is something else you have always dreamed of doing. This module will allow you to assess all the possibilities available to you.
How to Communicate with your Children
Think about all the emotions and events in front of you that you're dealing with. As an adult it is difficult, now look at your child and understand the uncertainty they must be feeling. Their world has been rattled. Children go through similar emotional phases that adults do and they do need to work through their own process.It's all about figuring out how to handle and work through conflicts. It's about learning how to communicate with each other and being committed to finding solutions.
Dating 101
Divorce can leave you reeling, but when you start to pick up the pieces of your life and decide to move back into dating, it can feel a bit strange. If you were married for a long time, you may even feel too intimidated to try dating again. While some people choose not to date after divorce, others don't because of negative self-thoughts. What can you do to help yourself successfully re-enter the dating scene? This could be a wonderful new beginning but everyone approaches it differently let's find out what works best for you.
